One in five people in the world is affected at some point in their life by a sexually transmitted infection (STI)according to the most recent reports from the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
In addition, almost half of new STIs occur among young people from 15 to 24 years old. If a test is not done in time to detect and treat the infection, it can develop into a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
And an STD can lead to more serious health problems, such as pelvic inflammatory disease, serious pregnancy complications, or infertility.
This makes it important to talk about STIs and STDs with your partner, so you can protect your health and theirsand also to create a safe space for lasting intimacy.
Megwyn White, certified clinical sexologist and education director of Satisfyer, a leading brand of pleasure products for sexual well-being focused on the democratization of pleasure, explains from New York to MagasIN that if you approach the subject with courage and sincerity, you can also create a space for talk to your partner about other aspects of your privacy.
“Once you break the ice and raise the issue with your partner, you can more easily explore the best options to keep each other safe,” he says.
bring up the conversation
But how can you get the conversation going without it being awkward?
The expert, whose work has focused on empowering people to explore the potential of their body, believes that, while it can be uncomfortable, it is best to face the issue: “A good way to bring it up is to start the conversation with something like: ‘When was the last time you got tested?’ Then let him know when was the last time you took the test.”
According to White, this will help create a space of trust and be less intimidating than simply asking what their STI status is. “The bottom line is that it’s important to protect your health and talk openly about these issues so you can keep yourself safe.”
Keep in mind that most STIs can be treated and, when addressed early, are easier to manage properly.
If the conversation leads you to the conclusion that to protect your health you need give you a testyou should know that there are home tests that can be purchased over the Internet and others that must be done with a health professional.
And if the result is positiveAccording to the expert, it is important that you talk openly with your partner.
“Keep in mind that there may be a lot of mixed emotions if you reveal it. If your relationship is rocky, it’s best to reveal the information in a not too closed space, like a bedroom. Choose a public space and let your partner know that they may may not like what you’re going to share, but you decide to do it because you respect him,” explains White.
And he continues: “Give your partner space to feel their emotions, which can range from anger to sadness, shame or fear. Wait for your partner to have questions and be prepared to answer them to the best of your ability. Get as much information as you can about your diagnosis so you can support your partner in the best possible way. Lastly, accept the fact that your partner may need space to process the information.”
The role of toys
Talking openly and honestly about STIs and STDs helps create a space for you to be more open about yourself. sex life in general.
“In fact, people who are able to broach the conversation about testing and their STI history tend to be more likely to also talk more openly about your desires in bedincluding sex toys,” says White.
Toys like Satisfyer’s, which help people reach their full sexual potential through empowerment, one of the pillars of the ‘Satisfyer effect’. In fact, their Satisfyer Pro 2 is the world’s best-selling pleasure product and has already helped more than 25 million women worldwide.
Considering that one of the most important aspects of pleasure is feeling comfortable and practicing open communication with your partner, especially when it comes to safe sex, it is important to address the issue and use toys in a healthy way.
And he concludes: “Sex toys can also be used safely when there is contact between genital fluids. But for this you have to take the necessary precautionssuch as using a condom on the toy and making sure to wash it with an antibacterial soap between uses, as STIs and other infections can be transmitted if bacteria are present and come into contact with mucous membranes.”
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